First, let me start by saying rejection is an illusion! Other people’s behavior is always about them and their story, even if someone blames someone else. You can blame all you want, but it’s really about you. When we blame, we give our power away, and we become victims. Nothing is more disempowering!

​Rejection is a complex belief or perception that needs to be overcome. It is a belief coupled with the fact that I’m not good enough, I’m not lovable, and even adjacent to patterns and perceptions of abandonment. In reality, there is no rejection or abandonment. People make choices and decisions according to their views, beliefs, and perceptions. They make decisions based on their needs at the time, or much of the time, we can make decisions based on fear or a feeling of not feeling worthy.

​Our society is steeped in fear-based consciousness. Most people do not feel worthy or good enough or lovable in some area of their being. Also, we are a society riddled with toxic male energy. We were taught false power. Our idea of power is domination, manipulation, and control or lording over someone or others. We were often trained to build ourselves up. We must tear someone else down to steal their energy instead of being built up by our caregivers and teachers (our influencers) instead of learning to build up our energy and be in our true power.

​When we have these views and perceptions of rejection and abandonment, we, at the core, do not feel worthy, good enough, or lovable. And that is a lie, for we all have value and are all good enough and lovable. We are all a part of the whole- we all influence and affect each other. Good or bad is also an illusion! Good or bad is an illusion also for it’s perception, it’s all in how we look at it. There can be good or bad in anything; it all depends on the angle from which we view things. It’s a little trippy to think about it.

​So there are various reasons why someone comes or goes from your life. Or why someone may choose another path. Even if it seems like it has to do with you- it does not. Some of the reasons may be that they have a calling somewhere. They may not feel worthy of you. They may self-sabotage, they may have fear, they may project onto you, and they could have beliefs blocking them. Or they may even blame you for something because it’s easier than taking responsibility for their energy.

​So, the first part of any healing process is observation. Observe your behavior and examine your perceptions and beliefs. Then, please take responsibility for them. Go to the core of where these perceptions occurred. Call back your power. Call back the energy you gave away to the person you perceived abandoned you! It would help if you also built yourself up. Reassure yourself. Affirm that it’s not about you; it’s about them. Look at your own decisions and see how they were based on core beliefs or feelings from something more. We must take responsibility for our thoughts, beliefs, and choices and examine our motivations. We must know ourselves so that we can begin to understand others and the world around us. Nothing is more potent than taking responsibility for ourselves, our thoughts, our beliefs, and our vibration. What we believe creates our vibration and, therefore, our reality, which is sometimes an illusion. Rejection and abandonment is an illusion. See it for what it is and learn to be what you need and desire for yourself. The power is all within you!